Cost of PhD 脑残的代价

In China, many parents are pride of their children who have achieved a degree of a PhD or a post PhD etc. However, the research in the UK shows that over 50% of PhD professions suffer from depression and mental illness which result great difficulty in their personal and social life. What do those parents want? a health next generation or a namely higher educated mental ill child? if a person who damaged his/her own brain by extremely studying, how can their parents be pride of with? Strangely and stupidly by those type of parents! the pride of such thing is only for covering their parents' fear. but the scarfing costs the individuals life. Is it worth?

Many real cases happened in my network. But, I can't help them directly as the stupidity by their parents! God bless them please! Some Chinese are becoming mad! now!   

Lie makes rich! 谎言致富！

After four-year absence from this blog, I finally come back. The first thought here is about the word of lie. I have spent lot of time to teach organisation to improve its performance for sustaining its profit. However, it is mission impossible without touching the topic of human behaviour change. The Johari window is always the first theory in my teaching.
Interestingly, even if people know everyone lies, but, if you openly talk about their lie, often, you receive a great denies about their lie. After introducing the Johari window, finally, they will admit they lie all the time, because our society is full of fear now. They use the lie to defence their fear. The formula of percentage of their lie is depended on the percentage of their hidden personality plus their blind knowledge against unknown profound of knowledge. the more lie indicates more hidden personality in front of someone for some reason.
However, all lies result stress and no peace for mind rest. Someone uses lie to make their rich, in return, it builds up their bad karma.

If you want to live a deep happier life, don't lie whatever you can!

My five fathers 我的五位慈父

Today is the father's day. It let me think of all my fathers.

The first is my foster father, Cao. He is my biological father's brother-in-law and brought me up since I was three month old. He gave all his love to me. Now, he passed away in 2008 at aged of 85. I love him forever.

The second father is my first husband, Edward's father, Ting. Now he is 73 and a talk man nearly 6 ft. Although my first husband died for over 20 years, Ting still sees me as his real daughter and keeps his house for me. We keep in touch. I love him. Every time, if I see him, he always cooks a traditional dish called 素雞. It is made by hard Tufu soaked in light soy sauce, then eat in cool. It is our favourite food, particularly when we together drink local wine with it. I regret I am unable to look after him as I live in the UK, 7000 miles away from him. I love him and pray for his health and happiness.

The third father is my biological father, Sam. As for his disagreement with my first marriage, we didn't have any connection since then. He lives in Hong Kong and now aged at 81. Today, my husband convinced me to forgive him. So, I sent my forgiveness via my Hong Kong uncle. Just bless him for good health and happy.

The fourth father is my now father-in-law, Frank. He died 35 years ago. He is the most important person for my husband. Although I never see him, the family ring passed onto me with all his good wish. My husband always tells me lot of stories about him. He brought up my husband in military camp. He was a tank commander in British army and spent half of his life all around world during his military career. Finally, his leg was injured and broken during the World War II. He is my family War hero. I respect him very much. Father I love you.

The fifth father is my uncle, Xing, now 71, also the most important person in my life. He is highly educated, very kind, understanding, caring and always spot me. My uncle specifically loves me as his daughter, because he has two very good sons, Joseph and Kevin. All his family see me as part of them. I love and respect him very much indeed. My husband also loves him.

I am pride of them and luckily benefited from their love.

In Chinese, the father's words are heavier than sky. 父教勝於天.

Dear fathers, I love you all.

Happy father's day.

Love you Mum 思念母親

My foster mum passed away on 12 March 2009 at age of 83. I feel extremely sad. I can't describe how pain my heart.

Every morning, when I see her face, I just want to cry. No one can understand me.
I am very down and feel my world has end. I just hopelessly live in the world.
Mum, I love you, I can't bear the pain and loss.
Buddha blesses you forever. Love you mum.

Mussels 青口

In the UK, if you are not behave self like a British, you can eat all seafood in raw. Today is Chinese boat racing festival, I can't have stick dumpling in the UK, so I walked alone beach to pick up mussel from sea fence in Bacton. It is quite tough particular in all rough shell covered. After two hours 'hard working', I finally got around 2kg mussels. I am sorry for the Queen as I didn't get her permission to her sea.
My husband doesn't like any seafood. So, the only thing for me is to hidden it and eat quietly. laughing.
Be honest, this is the first raw seafood since I stayed here in 2007. I feel sad and hopeless for all food in this country. Hope this is a light for my variety.

Burying Hong Kong 沉落香港

I watch and listen HK news everyday whatever I am in HK or not. However, recently, I am very disappointed with all changes in HK which result me feeling bad and I think Beijing and HK gov are destroying HK's unique and future. Just sad all HK's policies are interfered by the under table black hands -some kind of Chinese ???!!!. What can I do?
So, I decided not to listen and watch any HK news and just to bury my heart away from HK.
It will be no more HK in the world soon.
Buddha blesses HK's future. I love HK.

Fish & Chips 炸魚和薯條的歡喜

Fish & Chips is UK's national dish since unknown age. I was refused to have it as it is junk food when I lived in the UK 8 years ago. Now, as the shortage of lovely Chinese food in this country, and also it is my husband's favourite. Every Saturdays, we travel around Norfolk to hunt for the best fish & Chips in Norfolk. So far, we have enjoyed English traditional with English ownerships as below in Norfolk,

1)the best warmly and home feeling fish & chips restaurant is in Wroxham called Ken's
2)The best fish & Chip take away shop is in Wells-next-Sea (over 60 miles from my home)
3)The best value for money Fish & Chips shop in Walcott sea front where just 10 minutes way from my home.

Those three are the most we go for the lovely food. However, except those three, the rest of fish & chips shops are not owned by English. They almost run by my foreign immigration from China, Turkey, India, Polish and so on. even it is cheaper than those English fish & chips, the feeling is different when we walk into those English and foreigner cooked fish & chips shop.

Surprisingly, now I have been converted by my English husband and enjoyed fish & chips every Saturdays although it is poisoned junk food which I never had in HK. Never mind, just be happy and enjoy the limited