Merry Xmas

Xmas is all about love. True love is no condition and materialization. I enjoy the Xmas decoration and lights with all my husband's wish, although I am a Buddhist. Merry Xmas to all and wish every one is happy and health forever.

Dancing with National Express Coach finished 與誰共舞(5)

As the reason for resign the job in Dorset, there will be no more Coach journey from Norfolk to Dorset every weekend after Dec. It gives me a lot of relaxation and peace of mind every weekend. I am glad I will be able to go to Car booty or look around Norfolk countryside, or hunt for the best fish & Chip in Norfolk during weekend. Thanks my Buddha for finishing the painful and stressful journey. I have learnt how to survive in this country and not expect too much on its public transportation as the National express is the best although 90% is not on time particular in Fridays and snow days. It will be my faulty to compare it with HK's transportation. I have to remind myself I am not in HK any more all the time. What can I do next? - To get my driving licence or pilot licence? Maybe. I will miss National Express. The worse will result never forgotten. Buddha Blesses British transportation!

A touch story 遙遙回家路(2)

Today, when I took coach back to Poole, Dorset, from London Victoria coach station, surprisingly, I saw the old man again. I was existed after not seeing him with the coach journey for over half year. He holed an invalid ticket. As a result, the coach driver didn't let him get on and gave him an official note. When I was getting on the coach, I saw him reading the note. His face was disappointed. He wear a cap and nearly covered his eyes as the weather was very cold and wet. I didn't have chance to call him. When I was in the coach, I was expecting the driver finally could let him in. Sadly, he didn't. He looks like more wrinkle on his face. I thought he may travel back to Bournemouth for seeing his young son who is studying in Bournemouth university. I feel sad and wish he can go back to China and reunion with his wife asap and not need to suffer the life in this unfriendly country. Buddha blesses him.

Golden Oldies 釣金龜

Unmarried wealth men or women are always attractive. People call them as Golden Oidies. Many women or men are looking them for marriage if lucky, in Cantonese, we call it as fishing the golden tortoise. After the marriage, the fishermen or fisherladies often proud to tell everybody about the story of their marriage. What is that meaning? For me, the word of Golden oldies indicates this person neither commit to marriage nor willing giving love to others nor ready to receive love. Do you want to marry to this type people for life? For me, it is NO. Money doesn't have function to indicate love. Sometime, it goes worse. It is sham, our society only focus on material and wealth rather than true love. So, be careful if you are Golden oldies, don't let fishermen or fisherladies too close you. If you have money, you can buy anything except love. if you do so, just Good Luck!

Wild China 美麗中國

Wild China, the six documentary serials recently by BBC, are very good. It is unusually away from BBC's political perception and has presented all good sides about China. It is all nature beautify around China 9.6 milion square kilometers landscapes and nature and fascinate culture and tradition. Thanks BBC.

A touch story 遙遙回家路(1)

I met a Chinese old man during the coach journey to Poole from London today. He sat next to me. We had talk. He comes from a village in Fu Jian prvince of China where is the famous smuggling place in China to Europe. He told me he has two sons in the UK. They all have legal passports to UK. But, he didn't. He has smuggled for over ten years across Russia, East Europe, France, and finally to the UK. He stays in the UK for years. He earns a lot money just for sending his two sons to study in the UK and to build his five layers house in his home village. Now he achieved all goals. His elder son runs Chinese take away in Edinburgh and his young son studies in Bournemouth university. We talked about the difference between UK and China. In the UK, almost Chinese are isolated and survived with small business, but never have chance to enjoy their live in this country. I agree with him totally. He regrets his decision to follow his village mates to start the smuggle journey. Now he is 50s, just wants to go home. He wonder it is worth smuggling or not. Nobody can give him an answer and also nobody will tell the truth when they return to China. People in China are still excited to go out of China. When they come to UK, first job almost in Chinese restaurant or take away. Very hard work with little incoming. No good good condition to stay, don't know outside world, no TV, not interested in listening to the local radio. just nothing knows about the country where they stay in. He has worked many different jobs during his over ten years smuggling journey. He told me he has very good skill on building, cooking, trading. Whatever he goes, he is trying to find his foot to get his talent to business. but very difficult. Now, he realised the most important is family. He has not seen his wife since he left home. I asked him why he wants to go out. He said to me in his village, all men smuggle to outside China, only left women there. Men will be no face if they stay in their home village. Now, his wife lives in the five layer house, his house cost RMB1.8m (£130K), in his home village, feels lonely and unstop waiting for his husband and sons. Many families broke as the long time separation. Many his villages mates finally get nothing, no money, no family then, turn to gamble, drug and something else. The whole life is destroyed by the smuggling.
I said to him, the family is the most important than anything else. Life is short, we have to lower our ambition and live in reality. He agreed with me. We seem friends. then, he got off at Bournemouth station and I continued my final journey to Poole. When I played my Su doku, he asked me what it was, I teached him how to play Su doku, he seems very happy.

I have a lot of thoughts. His deep wrinkle, brown coloured face, cautioned eyes show his hard life. I just pray him go home early and gather with his family soon. Buddha, please blesses them all.

Dancing with National Express Coach 與誰共舞(4)

This Friday, the journey to home was as same as before. Luckily, the coach arrived 30 minutes ahead to London Victor station from Bournemouth. It gave me plenty of time to look around. One pub sells food and alcohol next to the station looks attractive, but I did go as my heavy luggage. The coach to Norwich was as usual 20 minutes late to arrive. I am still glad the 10 minutes improved journey comparing to previous experience. My leg didn't go swollen as before.

Today, the journey from Norwich back to Bournemouth was ten minutes earlier arrived to London victor and finally arrived in Poole on time. The weather is colder around 17 degree with shower rain. Everything is fine for me this weekend. I am very happy. My husband seems depressed this morning when he sent me to coach station, I feel guilty away from home. Hopefully, I can relocate back to Norfolk asap. When I arrived my home in Poole, my blood pressure is 59 lower, I need to lay down. thanks my Buddha for everything.

Birthday Queen 生日女皇

Today is my lunar birthday in Chinese calender. My colleagues sent their greeting card with a young girl face on it and one box of Chocolate. I am very happy to receive it and opened the chocolate last Friday. My colleagues in the same office shared it. They said to me I have the same Birthday as their Queen and I am the queen in the office as I am the oldest person and only female there. Thank them and I have to buy Doughnuts for my colleagues next Monday. This is English way. My company has also sent a birthday card to where I stay in Poole. I feel welcome and part of in the society. thanks everyone there.

I shared the card and chocolate with my husband when I came to home. We spent whole day in Wells next to sea. My husband bought a whole crab and fish and chip for me. We are happy to walk around Wells. Thanks all. I love you my darling.

Tomorrow is my Sun Birthday, I have to travel back Bournemouth with no time spending with my husband. It is bit sad. Never mind, this is life.

Morning Hong Kong (1) 白粥+炸兩/油炸鬼+豉油皇炒麵

In HK, I always have breakfast in local restaurant. The most popular breakfast includes congee, deep fired dry noodle with soy source and Deep fried flour dough wrapped in rice pancake. The breakfast set only costs HKD17 (=£1.1). Same stuff, I had once in Chinatown in Birmingham 7 years ago. I cost me HKD90 (£5.9). As the result of expensive in the UK, I just can't eat this breakfast in restaurant. Also, no Chinese restaurant open for breakfast. Maybe, I will consider to run one.

Lifetime of Trousers & shoes 長命褲與長命鞋

I am short and have difficult to find right size of clothes in the UK. So, I buy my clothes almost in HK rather than in the UK. M&S is my favourite brand. They sell all my size there. Ten years ago, I bought a green trouser. I wear it non-stoply during my daily work. I ware it almost anywhere I went to. My friends asked me whether I lacked trousers. I said no. I just loved it, as it was right size, comfortable and causal. After seven years in use, a big hole occurred on back of this trouser. Same story, I had a pair of hiking shoes. it made me feel comfortable. So, I continuly ware it for 2 years. Finally, this shoes had big holes in both shoes caused my heel pain. I am always sad to redundant them. Now, I realise, the lifetime of a trousers is around seven years and of a pair of shoes is around 2 years. OK, how many clothes and shoes do we need? I counted my wardrobe, My clothes which I can wear more than ten years. Why do we need to buy clothes and shoes? For helping the environmental friendly, I stop to buy clothes and shoes many years ago until it is really necessary. I am happy for saving the world resource and being a responsible human. Thanks my Buddha to let me learn the Buddhist theory of cause and effect.

Su doku 数独すどく

I love So Doku since 2001. I started to play it when I was in the UK, felt bored and stressed by my MBA study. I am slow player, Often, spend over 10 minutes to finish one easy sudoku. My husband keeps all sudoku from his newspaper for me. I can play it during my journey to go home and come back to my workplace. When I play it, I can forget my work and my study, and feel relaxed and enjoyment.

My sister in law in Canada is good at mathematics. So, the Sudoku is no challenge for her. She can finish difficult one within 5 minutes. How good she is. Whatever, slow or quick, I am happy to play it.

Lucky woman 幸運兒

Today is the anniversary of meeting my husband. I sincerely thank my Buddha for letting me meet his man in my life. My husband is the best. He always cares and loves me with NO condition. What will I expect next? Life is short and simple. The rest is not important than my husband. I am lucky and feel wealth enough because him. I believe love must with NO condition since I understood the world. Now, I have my happy marriage. Thanks my Buddha and thanks my beloved darling husband. Be happy for everything.

Hong Kong sick 沉默的情懷

I can't describe how much I miss Hong Kong. Every time, when I listen to HK radio, I feel lost and can't sleep overnight. Also, I have eating disorder recently which result my head dizzying as I refuse to eat English food. I know this is not good for me. but, I can‘t control myself. Hong Kong seems drug for me. What can I say? Life can't be always ideal. I have to sacrifice sometimes.

Wild love 晤野晤愛

My colleague told me he has 10 girl friends at same time, all of his girl friends demand marriage, he just scare from them as he is a wealth man and has big family farmer, sheep's, holiday homes in France and Spain. He divorced for five years. I laugh at him as 'a lucky man'. He said he is unlucky. The man, in my observation, is not a such good behaved person as always rude, f* word, woman, sex, money and car in his mouth over hundred times a day in office, always arrogant, bossy, defensive and fussy to other colleagues. During working hour, he can talk to many girl friends a day. but his boss, another stranger English ex-pat, pensioner just turns a blind eyes. Nobody knows what they two do. I have observed them for the purpose of my PhD study. It gives me more data on comparing behaviours between English and Chinese. I talked to other colleagues, this man will have more other women as his behaviours are not good enough in theory but enough bad to be loved by women.

Human do love bad behaviour always. It calls love at hate. for example, beautiful women love men's pockets. Handsome men are able to womanising with beauty, sexy and don't care about women's mindset and kindness. You can find all those evidence through our society. This is animal behaviours as majority of human have no brain. for instance, if singers dress up sexy and wild, this will result more fans to follow and more sales on their albums. Paint artists, if they paint in wild behaved, it will result more consumers to love and gossip, then, the paints will become famous and high sales. Very few art works, if painted behaviour good can become famous shortly. Maybe people do feel bored if anything is ideally good. Maybe people don't really understand or care about what art is about. Maybe, the word of art is a fashion. Maybe, human is just animal. Maybe ...

The wild makes up dynamic, anger, challenge, debate, controversial and so on but all of them indicate opportunity. In the monkey world, the head of monkey is the worse behaved animal in its group. One bad behaved male monkey can have hundred female followers. Also, one bad behaviour female monkey is able to have hundred male follower. So, to love the hate is part of animal world. Human can not be distinguished from animal initial.

So, why do we need behaviours ourselves? Just relaxing and back to wild as bad behaviors as we want.

Dragon boat racing festival 粽"味"依舊

Today is the traditional Chinese dragon boat racing festival in Hong Kong and China. During day time, people will often gather around river bank or sea front to watch dragon boat racing. During evening, family members will together have traditional dumpling meal. The dumpling is made by glutinous rice, pork or fruit stuffed and wrapped by bamboo leaves. This tradition has 5000-year history. My friends sent greeting to me. But I feel sad as no atmosphere in the UK to calibrate this festival. I feel home sick and dying for this lovely dumpling and watching dragon boat racing in Tolu Harbour in Tai Pu.

National Rail 正點火車

Starting this weekend, the railway engineering work will finish between the lines of Poole to London, and London to Norwich. I am very happy for this news as it can reduce my journey time to go home significantly. I used to spend 10 hours more by coach to home, now I can have 5 hours by train for single journey, also, the changeover can be reduced from 7 times to 2 times by train. I know I still have to up down inside London underground, It is enough for me to delight. I work in Dorset, South England, and my home is in North Norfolk, East England. I had nearly given up the job and wanted to work anywhere closer to my home. Now I have the hope and will carry on the job in Dorset, where is 300 miles away from my home. Hopefully, I can have a little peace in my life and not bothered by anymore railway engineering work shortly. Dear Buddha, thank you.

Hypotension 低血壓

Last Monday, I was diagnosed as low blood pressure at 52 which result me feel dizzying all the time if I stand. So, I was off work for days. The Doctor said it may be caused by hungry. Maybe yes. I do feel hungry almost from morning at 10 to off work at 5pm. I don't like to eat British cold lunch in office, so I nearly eat nothing at lunch for two months. Now, I must change this bad habit for my husband. I don't know what to do with the low blood pressure. just feel down. Since last week, I have dizzying everyday and have to lay in bed in order to help my brain has enough blood and Oxygen. Hopefully, everything is fine for me soon.

Maybe yes or maybe not 一心兩意

During my university life, Professors warn us never to make any conclusion until we have enough evidence to proof it. So, I say any word with MAYBE instead 'YES or NO' if I don't have enough proof. When I have to comply with a degree graduation, I must write YES or NO in my conclusion.

In Reality, I have found many people like politicians, business bosses, marketing sales and use the word of MAYBE very often during election, selling, convincing or and so on. Interestingly, ordinary people are willing to listen to those MAYBERs. However, after they won election or done the deal, people start to expecting YES or NO. If the delivery is unsatisfactory, people will critics or complain. those ordinary people never win the appeal, because the word of Maybe is equal to Yes or No. So, those politician, salesmen or bosses will never graduate with a degree. I am interested in what have happened to those MAYBERs in real life. If they want to get married, can they get approval with MAYBE instead I do?

Local newspaper 天邊一只雁

I have participated a supermarket survey in the UK. One question is which newspaper I read daily. It is interesting. I don't buy newspaper in either Hong Kong and UK, because too much unnecessary news & gossip made up the large portion. So, I stopped to buy newspaper in HK 10 years ago. But, I do read newspaper everyday. My husband reads local newspaper called EDP (Eastern Daily Press) which is mainly Norfolk news. I don't read it almost. Only just, when I was in Hong Kong, I read it via Internet as I was isolated from my England home and worried about my husband. Wherever I am in HK or UK, the news through http://www.google.com.hk/ and the radio from http://www.rthk.org.hk/ are always the priority for me. My friends laugh me not being a British yet and ask me why I live here. I wish I would get away from this country. I am a wild goose whatever I am, Hong Kong, always, is my beloved destination. The song of a wild goose in the sky by Alan Tam is my favourite. Every time, I hear it, I just want to fly back to HK. I am here is only for my husband and my family. Hong Kong is my local place forever.

Washing & Ironing 燙衫婆

I hate washing and ironing. My husband does almost all washing and ironing at home. Now, I stay 300 miles away from home. He can't help me more. My company has a cloth code of conduct. I have to wear all ironed cloth during Mondays to Thursdays. No choice for me. So, I bought a good quality iron made in Germany. It costs me £80. Surprisingly, to use this iron, I can finish all my weekly cloth and bed linen ironing within half hour. When I use ironed bed linen and wear ironed cloth, my feeling is incredibly happy. I look like more beautiful and professional. Now, I enjoy the ironing and ask myself whether I have became a British wife. I told my husband. My husband asks me to iron his cloth. I said NO. Laughing. Of course, I am happy to iron his cloth if I use this German mader. My husband is the most brilliant man in my life. Thank you made in Germany. It has changed my life.

Mates 老友

My colleagues are 5 males. When they answer or make a call to each other, always say 'hello mate', but they never say this word to me. I asked one of them why. He replied to me with smile. I like this word as it proofs they are connected well. I often say 'My Buddha!' instead 'my God'. They are very interested in knowing this new phase. Then, they start using this new Phase communicating with me instead my GOD. Later, I call them mates, they use My Buddha to other colleagues.

Dizziness 路暈

I walk to office from where my stay every morning and evening with each walk 2.2 miles for 40 minuets. It is the most economic, efficient, health way to remain my daily excises. the Road which I walk along is main traffic road, uneven, mostly the road all with up-down hill 30 to 40 degree angel sometimes. The side path way is around one meter width with more uneven and odd surfaces. After one month walk, my foot starts pain and I can't walk as same speed as usual. Sometimes, the pain starts at the morning walk. This week, almost whole weekdays, the pain from the lig. plantare longum appears at mornings and evenings. I am little worried. The worse thing today, when I walked back to home, during the journey, I was fainting for over 10 seconds which resulted me certain nearly hit by running cars from the main road. When I waked up from the dizziness, I was very scare. The dizziness is the first time in my life. I am getting older and starting aging myself. I must look after myself for my husband and beloved ones. Buddha, blesses me.

Birds lover 鳥痴

I love Birds since I was aged 5 or younger. I feeded Pigeons under my house roof. I installed ten boxes under the roof. One week later, those boxes would accommodate Pigeon's families. New babies would turn up after several weeks. Then, it was interesting time for me. I could climbed up to the roof, checked those boxes. two Pigeon eggs one time. I often used corn to feed them. When Pigeons heard me, they could flight back to those boxes or my house immediately. After adult Pigeons had their dinner or tea, they would feed their babies with their mouths. watching Pigeon feeding, it was the happiest time in my Childhood as I didn't have luxury toys. also I respect the parents of Pigeons, they sacrifice themselves for feeding their babies.

Now, I have a bird table and Bird feeder in my garden. Every morning, my husband puts bread or food on the table. Sooner, birds will turn up from same family and drop feces on my clothes, windows, car and garden. We enjoy watching those smart birds trying food from the bird feeder. Sometimes, the nut is bigger than the hole, the birds have to try hard to get them, It is another enjoyment for us.

Slowly 慢条斯理

A friend is asking of how we can slowly do our daily thing during our group meeting. No one can answer this question. I ask myself, no answer as well. It may be the most difficult question. I am still thinking.

Dancing with National Express Coach 與誰共舞(3)

Today is public holiday, but my time can only be for the journey back to Bournemouth. Last Friday, the traffic back to Norfolk was fairly good, only half hour late. My husband and I were all happy for the coach 'on time'. Although the A11 was blocked, we went through Bury St Edmunds up to Thetford. However, today has very heavy rain, water just falling down. One of two coaches from Norwich to London Victoria didn't turn up. Left many passages at Norwich station. I was luck to get on the first coach as I held a connection ticket. then, the coach was half hour late departing from Norwich. All the way to London is stressed as worrying about lossing connection in London. What can I expect? This is the best public transportation in this country. It is better than Train. If I use train service, It will take me 7 hours and 5 changeover. I wander why the Railway engineering work always hold up on Public holiday. I can't give any comment on the service in this country. If it were in Hong Kong, I would never suffer such 'brilliant' service. Just no complaint at all, as nowhere, nobody is or will listen to me. What a hell of learning CRM (customer relationship management)? the CRM definitely doesn't work in this country. Don't believe Business excellent or Best practice. It doesn't exist in this country although news, books, magazine are all talking about the business excellent. My legs were swollen again and result pain very much. I hope and pray for not having problem for my legs. My Buddha, please bless me.

Japanese Wedding 和味囍事

Today is my Friend, Chiaki's Wedding in Japan. It is a wonderful day for her. Last week, I and Kabir sent Telegram to the hotel where the Wedding ceremony is held today. I know her since 2001 when she was aged of 24 and a Japanese exchange student at UEA. She is always polite and cheerful. When I visited Japan in 2004, We gathered in Tokyo. I always remember little Chiaki. Now She grows up and becomes somebody's wife today. I wish I would attend her Wedding and taste the real deep indeed Japanese Custom. Bless and love you, Chiaki.

Cheese cake 芝士蛋糕

Cheesecake is irresistibly my favourite. I can have the best cheese cake in HK. Sadly, it is hardly to find it in tea house or cafe in the UK. Now, I have found most hotel restaurant can provide it with high price. I love it and miss it. I appreciate My husband try every opportunity to buy it for me. Thank you darling.

Doughnut party 糖彈計

I have worked in the Aerospace company for over a month. All most male colleagues are nice to me and behaviour well. They are very much rude, always f* words if I am not there. In front of me, they are different persons and never to say this word. So, I decided to pay a snack party for rewarding them as Gentleman. They are surprised beause no one doing this before. They enjoy Chinese Spring-roll, Indian Snack, Chocolates, English doughnuts, Bananas, Apples, Clips, Tea, Coffer, Coca-cola and so on.

Ice lemon tea & HK black tea凍檸茶+絲襪奶茶

When I lived in HK, I could almost have Ice Lemon Tea or HK locally brewed black tea with milk in restaurants. No Green tea will be served in restaurants. We could have Green tea in Teahouses. However, now, I live in England, none of them is available. Even, I went to China town in London, I couldn't have them. In London's Chinatown, Chinese restaurants only provide English black tea with milk and sugar. It's tasteless for me. I miss HK and miss the Ice lemon tea and thick and creamy HK black tea.

Dancing with National Express Coach 與誰共舞(2)

Last Friday, I went back Norfolk from Bournemouth via London Victoria station. It was another nightmare. As the accident on A11 around Newmarket, the road of A11 was completely blocked. I was stressed by worrying not enough sleeping time for my husband as he has to get up at 4am next day morning for his work. The Bus driver was very good and made the way through Ipswich to Norfolk. No surprisingly, another three hours delay. I finally arrived home around midnight again. My legs were swollen, headache, hungry, and no food for 10 hours. I was very down during the whole journey. I wish I couldn't work in such far distance from home.

Soldiers vs Polices 軍人與差人

In the UK, the BBC and ITV report Soldiers who sever in Iraq or Afghanistan are awarded with medals. I have never seen any polices are awarded by this country. Also, films and TV dramas are more about soldiers how to kill people than polices crack down crimes. I am annoyed by this type culture and society recognisation in this county. What is the purpose to being a solder? It is only to learn skills to kill people whatever who they are friends, innocent or enemies. But polices are more likely hero to protect the people but with less being recognized by this country system. Why British gov educates all citizen to call polices when they are in trouble. Why they don't call Solders? If we don't need to call solders, why we have to pay tax for solders to invade other countries? Stranger, Stranger and Stranger.

Wine boy 酒保

I have great chance to stay in Hotel for one month, as I benefited from my job relocation. I have my dinner in the hotel restaurant almost weekday evenings. Interestingly, before the starter, always one experienced man or boy comes to ask all guest for wine. As I am Buddhist and not drink wine, when the wine boy approaches me, he seems disappointed and walks away for other guest. As time goes, the shift has changed and changed, none of female wine girl does same job. I am interested in why? There is many female work in Pubs. Why female don't sell wine in hotel restaurant? Good Luck. If I buy a hotel, maybe, I will create the difference. I believe female can sell more wine as their smiles are more sex than male sometimes or mostly.

Waiters vs waitress 侍男侍女？

I have found interesting scenario in the UK. In the hotel restaurant, if its ranking is three stars or less, you can find almost all waitresses working in restaurant. If the hotel ranking is four stars or above, you will hardly find female waitress in hotel restaurant. I wonder the reason. Is woman less effective or classics in four star hotel? I don't think so. Or, is this scenario just to proof more female guests eating in higher classics restaurants than male? If so, probably, it is the fact.

Dancing with National Express Coach 與誰共舞(1)

I have just started new job in Bournemouth, South of England, for two weeks. But my home is located in Norfolk, East of England. There are 300miles (480km) away from home. Last Friday, I went back home via Heathrow airport. When the coach departed from Bournemouth to Heathrow, already one hour late. Then, in Heathrow, no coach could arrived for Norwich as two accidents on M25. So, another one and half hours waiting in Heathrow. Luckily, I cancelled the appointment with my friend in Heathrow. Otherwise, it would be nightmare for my friend. All the journey time, I was stressed by worrying loss the connection in Heathrow and worrying about my husband. When I finally arrived home, it was next day morning at 0:30am. It took me 10 hours to go home. My husband felt tired as well. As he waited me in Coach station for over three hours. I had no complaint for this travel because it is in the UK and not anywhere else. Good Luck for next.

Being an aerospace lady 宇航超女

Surprisingly and excitingly, my child dream became true now as I am an aerospace lady and contributing to UK's aircraft making, like Airbus, Boeing and other secrete devices. That is proof again that WE never know what WE go next. We should catch all opportunities around us and try our best in life.

When I studies my MBA in the UK, I was fascinated to discover the model of EFQM (European Foundation for Quality management) comparing to the traditional quality implementation in HK and China, I got distinguish mark. But, I was never thought I could join a EFQM company, even never to make aircraft in my life. Now I am here. The goal to work in either automobile or aerospace industries is achieved. Because, when I was at University for my first degree, people thought I was only an office girl and couldn't do mechanical engineering. Now, I did. I work within British white male with over 6 ft tall colleagues mostly. Who I am? I don't know. Maybe a super little lady from HK and China Shanghai.

The older is the wiser 耆英粉絲

In my mind, always turn up an old lady's who were 88 years old from Japan. I met her in 2001 while I was studying my MBA at UEA. One day, I attended an English classroom, she was there. Suddenly, I raised my respect to all Japanese particular this lady. I asked her for the reason of her learning English. She replied me as she just wanted to learn English as second foreign language. She has many grandchildren and children all in Japan. When I asked her whether her children were worried about her. Then, she talked to me about her stories such as her health, her family, her interest in learning. She started to paint her first work at aged 68 and learnt English at 70s, but never knew what the real English is. This is why she came to England just for learning the real English and so on. She is a such wonderful Japanese lady with all learning attitude. She is my model for learning, when I feel frustrated on on learning, she is always turn up in my mind and motivate me going. Thank you, the Japanese lady.

Naturalism 自然主義者

I am a naturalism. For work, many conflict are natural. We don't need to deliberate to interfere the action taken or decision-making, just let thing to go naturally. Some people don't understand or never taste how great from the naturalism, they often try to start politics or gossip in office and so on. But the thing only goes to its way own mostly. My colleagues always blame me not to interfere the progress of decision making. I replied with no, as I believe the best solution is towards nature. We don't need over estimated our self in a team. When my responsibility is taken, it is enough. No politics, no gossip. For family conflicts, I also act silence or walk away after ONCE I have given my opinion or comments. If people don't listen, they wont listen forever. This is human nature. To let the consequence educating them is the best way to solve family conflict. I quite enjoy my strategy on solving those problems at work and also family. As the same principle, naturalism, I pray for human not too much interfere with our living environment and resource. Whatever we did selfishly or badly on nature, human will be punished at the final. This is principle of nature. Buddhist is almostly a naturalism based on its theory of Cause and Effect. To respect the natural progress is the best for human.

Two is better than one 二個比一個好

In modern life, many people choose to live alone, unmarried, widowed or divorced. When we do a survey and ask people to answer this question, they will simply tell you with no confidence on marriage. For me, I believe marriage and its core family value to our society. Two is better than one.

Many people in China put too much material and condition on it, this is one of reason to let people keep distance from marriage. In China, particular in rich areas like Beijing, Shanghai and eastern China , it is not only material is the core condition to marriage, but also other unhealthy revenge has involved in as well. For instance, if women divorced, they often use child as bullets to fight with ex, then, women will often block the child to see their fathers and poison their child with bad wordings on their father in order to obtain the child's loyalty to the mother. The society in China encourage those single mun to behaviour like this. The single mum struggles to survive while can'g give the best family to her kids to grow up. The revenge mindset brainstorm have poisoned the whole modern generation, as a reulst, how can expect those kids can cope with audit life positively? God knows. The single mum does know the theory of two is better than one, just she lives in China and can't spot the problem, even they are proud of what they did on their kids and ex. I only pray for people in China , please do respect yourown, your kids and your ex. When you believe it, you, your kids & ex will benefit greatly from this open mindset and positive signs. To love you, your kids and your enimies. Tomorrow's life is better than today.

Given is the true happiness 施比受樂

I am a member of many charities in HK, UN and UK. Children is my most interested in. When I gave my donation, I feel great happiness in life. For those children live in poverty, it is not only to provide material help, but also the most important is education. I feel guilty not able to be a volunteer in those Charities so far, my English mum, Sue, is on her way in Africa to help children from 2 to 12. I hope one day, I can go with her in Africa or anywhere for helping children. Thanks for those charities and thanks my Buddha. Given is the true happiness for me.

To love vs be loved 佛說-愛

I read what Buddha said about the human love and then have deep thinking for long while. A student of Buddhist asked Buddha what the real love is, as he gave up the one whom he loved and married to another girl whom he doesn't love, but the girl loves him. then, the student starts wander whether his decision is correct or not as he is a sincere Buddhist.
Buddha reply his wander as the following:
To marry the one you loved can lead you to the real heaven and happiness. When you love her, you have no desires on any return and are motivated to try everything for her happiness, even most time, it is painful experience, this is true love. Otherwise, when you take some one's love, you will loss you motivation forward the real happiness. Some people finally do choose taken the love after a long fighting for finding a true lover, it is not a way Buddha encouraged according to the Buddhist theory of Cause and Effect. It is just a convenience. Why do human blame sometimes never found a real lover? How can we easily identify the real love around us?
Today, people are keen on most convenience rather than put effect on what they want to, as a result they choice their marriage and love in a high demanding on material and western culture driven way, such as ordinary girls try everything to get married to wealth families; celebrities married to each other and so on, but those love often with a high divorce rate and high compensation to women ending. For middle classics whatever in HK, China and UK, they often put equal social classics marriage as the principle by culture and family seniors. Also, to marry a foreign western husband and immigrate to western countries is another love goal. Do they have real love? Maybe, just materialization and convenience. This is not a real love at all.
Buddha please blesses them all whatever they give or taken love from someone. Here is some Buddha's theory for you learning. Learning it and enjoying it, I guarantee you will have lot of relaxation and peace in mind.

No YouTube 遠離管子

Many people start to use the fashion video publisher. For me, I am not a Youtube lover. Because, I think this technology is even more damaging human natural communication and have significant impact on face to face and human touch. Most people use the YouTube to express themselves, often have physiological & psychological weakness, such as shame personality, lack confidence to face human challenge, not sociable and so on. Politician and Hollywood star use it to give false impression to sustain their political survival and film or song sales. The biggest disagreement for me is the Youtube foster people's laziness and impact on writing skill rapidly. So, I would perfect the writing to express my feeling, just simple none-value added a video. Youtube is just a dead device for record human laziness.

Will 遺屬の語

In Hong Kong and some western countries, People are encouraged to make Will when they age reached 40. The reason for it is to protect your beloved one(s). In mainland China, to make Will is a untalkable cultural things for 5ooo years. Chinese often think making Will will cause unlucky and predict death. When you talk about death in China, you have to hide. In HK and Western, it is just a normal arrangement. I made my first Will in front of solicitors when I was 40 in HK. After I got married in England, my single Will expired immediately. I have to revise it as a married Will. In England, it is quite simply and cheap. I wish I can be buried in sea closer to my husband and my assets can leave for my beloved ones or childen charities. When I made Will, I feel peace and relaxed. Life is just simply and simply. The simpler will result happier. That is all.

Family woman 家庭是地

I am a family woman, my family is my earth. I and my husband, Peter, live between the sky and the earth. The sky is my career which is the most important for me, a female workaholic. But I still try my best to be a good family woman for my husband and maybe my child late. From Chinese eyes, I am not good at cooking Chinese food. They wont appreciate if I only throw everything into the wok. But from my husband's eyes, I am good. So, we decide to arrange our daily life as Mondays to Fridays, it is time for me to cook evening meal; On Saturdays, it my husband's turn to cook oven Fish and Chip; on Sundays, he will cook his best Sunday Roast for tea. I love cooking, when I cook, I can put all my creative idea into the wok. So far, I have managed not to repeat my receipt as long as possible and also cooked well with some Indian meal. The most important is my husband enjoys it and get health diet as long as we together. So, this is my earth life where I love to be