Golden Oldies 釣金龜

Unmarried wealth men or women are always attractive. People call them as Golden Oidies. Many women or men are looking them for marriage if lucky, in Cantonese, we call it as fishing the golden tortoise. After the marriage, the fishermen or fisherladies often proud to tell everybody about the story of their marriage. What is that meaning? For me, the word of Golden oldies indicates this person neither commit to marriage nor willing giving love to others nor ready to receive love. Do you want to marry to this type people for life? For me, it is NO. Money doesn't have function to indicate love. Sometime, it goes worse. It is sham, our society only focus on material and wealth rather than true love. So, be careful if you are Golden oldies, don't let fishermen or fisherladies too close you. If you have money, you can buy anything except love. if you do so, just Good Luck!

Wild China 美麗中國

Wild China, the six documentary serials recently by BBC, are very good. It is unusually away from BBC's political perception and has presented all good sides about China. It is all nature beautify around China 9.6 milion square kilometers landscapes and nature and fascinate culture and tradition. Thanks BBC.

A touch story 遙遙回家路(1)

I met a Chinese old man during the coach journey to Poole from London today. He sat next to me. We had talk. He comes from a village in Fu Jian prvince of China where is the famous smuggling place in China to Europe. He told me he has two sons in the UK. They all have legal passports to UK. But, he didn't. He has smuggled for over ten years across Russia, East Europe, France, and finally to the UK. He stays in the UK for years. He earns a lot money just for sending his two sons to study in the UK and to build his five layers house in his home village. Now he achieved all goals. His elder son runs Chinese take away in Edinburgh and his young son studies in Bournemouth university. We talked about the difference between UK and China. In the UK, almost Chinese are isolated and survived with small business, but never have chance to enjoy their live in this country. I agree with him totally. He regrets his decision to follow his village mates to start the smuggle journey. Now he is 50s, just wants to go home. He wonder it is worth smuggling or not. Nobody can give him an answer and also nobody will tell the truth when they return to China. People in China are still excited to go out of China. When they come to UK, first job almost in Chinese restaurant or take away. Very hard work with little incoming. No good good condition to stay, don't know outside world, no TV, not interested in listening to the local radio. just nothing knows about the country where they stay in. He has worked many different jobs during his over ten years smuggling journey. He told me he has very good skill on building, cooking, trading. Whatever he goes, he is trying to find his foot to get his talent to business. but very difficult. Now, he realised the most important is family. He has not seen his wife since he left home. I asked him why he wants to go out. He said to me in his village, all men smuggle to outside China, only left women there. Men will be no face if they stay in their home village. Now, his wife lives in the five layer house, his house cost RMB1.8m (£130K), in his home village, feels lonely and unstop waiting for his husband and sons. Many families broke as the long time separation. Many his villages mates finally get nothing, no money, no family then, turn to gamble, drug and something else. The whole life is destroyed by the smuggling.
I said to him, the family is the most important than anything else. Life is short, we have to lower our ambition and live in reality. He agreed with me. We seem friends. then, he got off at Bournemouth station and I continued my final journey to Poole. When I played my Su doku, he asked me what it was, I teached him how to play Su doku, he seems very happy.

I have a lot of thoughts. His deep wrinkle, brown coloured face, cautioned eyes show his hard life. I just pray him go home early and gather with his family soon. Buddha, please blesses them all.

Dancing with National Express Coach 與誰共舞(4)

This Friday, the journey to home was as same as before. Luckily, the coach arrived 30 minutes ahead to London Victor station from Bournemouth. It gave me plenty of time to look around. One pub sells food and alcohol next to the station looks attractive, but I did go as my heavy luggage. The coach to Norwich was as usual 20 minutes late to arrive. I am still glad the 10 minutes improved journey comparing to previous experience. My leg didn't go swollen as before.

Today, the journey from Norwich back to Bournemouth was ten minutes earlier arrived to London victor and finally arrived in Poole on time. The weather is colder around 17 degree with shower rain. Everything is fine for me this weekend. I am very happy. My husband seems depressed this morning when he sent me to coach station, I feel guilty away from home. Hopefully, I can relocate back to Norfolk asap. When I arrived my home in Poole, my blood pressure is 59 lower, I need to lay down. thanks my Buddha for everything.

Birthday Queen 生日女皇

Today is my lunar birthday in Chinese calender. My colleagues sent their greeting card with a young girl face on it and one box of Chocolate. I am very happy to receive it and opened the chocolate last Friday. My colleagues in the same office shared it. They said to me I have the same Birthday as their Queen and I am the queen in the office as I am the oldest person and only female there. Thank them and I have to buy Doughnuts for my colleagues next Monday. This is English way. My company has also sent a birthday card to where I stay in Poole. I feel welcome and part of in the society. thanks everyone there.

I shared the card and chocolate with my husband when I came to home. We spent whole day in Wells next to sea. My husband bought a whole crab and fish and chip for me. We are happy to walk around Wells. Thanks all. I love you my darling.

Tomorrow is my Sun Birthday, I have to travel back Bournemouth with no time spending with my husband. It is bit sad. Never mind, this is life.

Morning Hong Kong (1) 白粥+炸兩/油炸鬼+豉油皇炒麵

In HK, I always have breakfast in local restaurant. The most popular breakfast includes congee, deep fired dry noodle with soy source and Deep fried flour dough wrapped in rice pancake. The breakfast set only costs HKD17 (=£1.1). Same stuff, I had once in Chinatown in Birmingham 7 years ago. I cost me HKD90 (£5.9). As the result of expensive in the UK, I just can't eat this breakfast in restaurant. Also, no Chinese restaurant open for breakfast. Maybe, I will consider to run one.

Lifetime of Trousers & shoes 長命褲與長命鞋

I am short and have difficult to find right size of clothes in the UK. So, I buy my clothes almost in HK rather than in the UK. M&S is my favourite brand. They sell all my size there. Ten years ago, I bought a green trouser. I wear it non-stoply during my daily work. I ware it almost anywhere I went to. My friends asked me whether I lacked trousers. I said no. I just loved it, as it was right size, comfortable and causal. After seven years in use, a big hole occurred on back of this trouser. Same story, I had a pair of hiking shoes. it made me feel comfortable. So, I continuly ware it for 2 years. Finally, this shoes had big holes in both shoes caused my heel pain. I am always sad to redundant them. Now, I realise, the lifetime of a trousers is around seven years and of a pair of shoes is around 2 years. OK, how many clothes and shoes do we need? I counted my wardrobe, My clothes which I can wear more than ten years. Why do we need to buy clothes and shoes? For helping the environmental friendly, I stop to buy clothes and shoes many years ago until it is really necessary. I am happy for saving the world resource and being a responsible human. Thanks my Buddha to let me learn the Buddhist theory of cause and effect.

Su doku 数独すどく

I love So Doku since 2001. I started to play it when I was in the UK, felt bored and stressed by my MBA study. I am slow player, Often, spend over 10 minutes to finish one easy sudoku. My husband keeps all sudoku from his newspaper for me. I can play it during my journey to go home and come back to my workplace. When I play it, I can forget my work and my study, and feel relaxed and enjoyment.

My sister in law in Canada is good at mathematics. So, the Sudoku is no challenge for her. She can finish difficult one within 5 minutes. How good she is. Whatever, slow or quick, I am happy to play it.

Lucky woman 幸運兒

Today is the anniversary of meeting my husband. I sincerely thank my Buddha for letting me meet his man in my life. My husband is the best. He always cares and loves me with NO condition. What will I expect next? Life is short and simple. The rest is not important than my husband. I am lucky and feel wealth enough because him. I believe love must with NO condition since I understood the world. Now, I have my happy marriage. Thanks my Buddha and thanks my beloved darling husband. Be happy for everything.

Hong Kong sick 沉默的情懷

I can't describe how much I miss Hong Kong. Every time, when I listen to HK radio, I feel lost and can't sleep overnight. Also, I have eating disorder recently which result my head dizzying as I refuse to eat English food. I know this is not good for me. but, I can‘t control myself. Hong Kong seems drug for me. What can I say? Life can't be always ideal. I have to sacrifice sometimes.

Wild love 晤野晤愛

My colleague told me he has 10 girl friends at same time, all of his girl friends demand marriage, he just scare from them as he is a wealth man and has big family farmer, sheep's, holiday homes in France and Spain. He divorced for five years. I laugh at him as 'a lucky man'. He said he is unlucky. The man, in my observation, is not a such good behaved person as always rude, f* word, woman, sex, money and car in his mouth over hundred times a day in office, always arrogant, bossy, defensive and fussy to other colleagues. During working hour, he can talk to many girl friends a day. but his boss, another stranger English ex-pat, pensioner just turns a blind eyes. Nobody knows what they two do. I have observed them for the purpose of my PhD study. It gives me more data on comparing behaviours between English and Chinese. I talked to other colleagues, this man will have more other women as his behaviours are not good enough in theory but enough bad to be loved by women.

Human do love bad behaviour always. It calls love at hate. for example, beautiful women love men's pockets. Handsome men are able to womanising with beauty, sexy and don't care about women's mindset and kindness. You can find all those evidence through our society. This is animal behaviours as majority of human have no brain. for instance, if singers dress up sexy and wild, this will result more fans to follow and more sales on their albums. Paint artists, if they paint in wild behaved, it will result more consumers to love and gossip, then, the paints will become famous and high sales. Very few art works, if painted behaviour good can become famous shortly. Maybe people do feel bored if anything is ideally good. Maybe people don't really understand or care about what art is about. Maybe, the word of art is a fashion. Maybe, human is just animal. Maybe ...

The wild makes up dynamic, anger, challenge, debate, controversial and so on but all of them indicate opportunity. In the monkey world, the head of monkey is the worse behaved animal in its group. One bad behaved male monkey can have hundred female followers. Also, one bad behaviour female monkey is able to have hundred male follower. So, to love the hate is part of animal world. Human can not be distinguished from animal initial.

So, why do we need behaviours ourselves? Just relaxing and back to wild as bad behaviors as we want.

Dragon boat racing festival 粽"味"依舊

Today is the traditional Chinese dragon boat racing festival in Hong Kong and China. During day time, people will often gather around river bank or sea front to watch dragon boat racing. During evening, family members will together have traditional dumpling meal. The dumpling is made by glutinous rice, pork or fruit stuffed and wrapped by bamboo leaves. This tradition has 5000-year history. My friends sent greeting to me. But I feel sad as no atmosphere in the UK to calibrate this festival. I feel home sick and dying for this lovely dumpling and watching dragon boat racing in Tolu Harbour in Tai Pu.

National Rail 正點火車

Starting this weekend, the railway engineering work will finish between the lines of Poole to London, and London to Norwich. I am very happy for this news as it can reduce my journey time to go home significantly. I used to spend 10 hours more by coach to home, now I can have 5 hours by train for single journey, also, the changeover can be reduced from 7 times to 2 times by train. I know I still have to up down inside London underground, It is enough for me to delight. I work in Dorset, South England, and my home is in North Norfolk, East England. I had nearly given up the job and wanted to work anywhere closer to my home. Now I have the hope and will carry on the job in Dorset, where is 300 miles away from my home. Hopefully, I can have a little peace in my life and not bothered by anymore railway engineering work shortly. Dear Buddha, thank you.

Hypotension 低血壓

Last Monday, I was diagnosed as low blood pressure at 52 which result me feel dizzying all the time if I stand. So, I was off work for days. The Doctor said it may be caused by hungry. Maybe yes. I do feel hungry almost from morning at 10 to off work at 5pm. I don't like to eat British cold lunch in office, so I nearly eat nothing at lunch for two months. Now, I must change this bad habit for my husband. I don't know what to do with the low blood pressure. just feel down. Since last week, I have dizzying everyday and have to lay in bed in order to help my brain has enough blood and Oxygen. Hopefully, everything is fine for me soon.

Maybe yes or maybe not 一心兩意

During my university life, Professors warn us never to make any conclusion until we have enough evidence to proof it. So, I say any word with MAYBE instead 'YES or NO' if I don't have enough proof. When I have to comply with a degree graduation, I must write YES or NO in my conclusion.

In Reality, I have found many people like politicians, business bosses, marketing sales and use the word of MAYBE very often during election, selling, convincing or and so on. Interestingly, ordinary people are willing to listen to those MAYBERs. However, after they won election or done the deal, people start to expecting YES or NO. If the delivery is unsatisfactory, people will critics or complain. those ordinary people never win the appeal, because the word of Maybe is equal to Yes or No. So, those politician, salesmen or bosses will never graduate with a degree. I am interested in what have happened to those MAYBERs in real life. If they want to get married, can they get approval with MAYBE instead I do?

Local newspaper 天邊一只雁

I have participated a supermarket survey in the UK. One question is which newspaper I read daily. It is interesting. I don't buy newspaper in either Hong Kong and UK, because too much unnecessary news & gossip made up the large portion. So, I stopped to buy newspaper in HK 10 years ago. But, I do read newspaper everyday. My husband reads local newspaper called EDP (Eastern Daily Press) which is mainly Norfolk news. I don't read it almost. Only just, when I was in Hong Kong, I read it via Internet as I was isolated from my England home and worried about my husband. Wherever I am in HK or UK, the news through http://www.google.com.hk/ and the radio from http://www.rthk.org.hk/ are always the priority for me. My friends laugh me not being a British yet and ask me why I live here. I wish I would get away from this country. I am a wild goose whatever I am, Hong Kong, always, is my beloved destination. The song of a wild goose in the sky by Alan Tam is my favourite. Every time, I hear it, I just want to fly back to HK. I am here is only for my husband and my family. Hong Kong is my local place forever.